This past weekend I celebrated my twenty-second birthday (along with Earth Day) and it was everything beautiful, magical and cozy.
As I reflect on my next year around the sun, I thought I’d share a thing or twenty-two things I’ve learned along the way.
- A few rich, authentic, deep, soul-loving friendships are more beneficial than a lot of superficial ones.
2. Recycle. Be a conscious consumer. Go thrift shopping. The earth deserves that much.
3. There is room in this world for everyone to be successful. Your friends or peers success does not take away from your own. Also, let yourself define your own version of success, it doesn’t look the same for everyone.
4. With that, celebrate the tiny victories. Make that job promotion or your friends latest passion project a reason to celebrate.
5. Find comfort in failure.
6. Be mindful of how you use your word. “What Susie said about Sally says more about Susie than Sally” Talking bad about someone or judging someone says more about you than them.
7. When was the last time you worked on your relationship with yourself? Seek out positive affirmation from yourself instead of others.
8. Are you doing something because society told you to or because you actually like it? A question you should ask yourself often.
9. Don’t be afraid to take up space in this world. There is room for you.
10. Assume good intentions, always.
11. Practice putting others before yourself. It’s more rewarding than you might think.
12. Actively and intentionally seek out experiences that are outside of what you know. Growth happens in those spaces.
13. Don’t be known as the flakey friend. Show up and be there for others.
14. If you wouldn’t say something in public because it’s not politically correct, don’t say it at home either. It’s just as disrespectful even if you don’t think anyone in the room will be offended. The implications are the same.
15. Read about, listen to, and watch stories of people with different identities than you. You will become better because of it.
16. Give yourself permission to take a mental health day. Self-care is just as important as going to the dentist. It’s also a professional development tool.
17. Be outrageously kind. Not just to the people you know but to your barista, your waiter or the women walking down the street.
18. Don’t let it be too long before you watch the sunrise or the sunset. Be reminded how beautiful this world really is.
19. It’s okay to change your mind about your career, your passions or where you live. It doesn’t make you a failure, it just makes you human.
20. Put your phone away. Look up and let yourself be present with the people who you are with. You’d be surprised at the amount you miss when you’re constantly looking at a screen.
21. Drink, party and make mistakes but don’t let that be the thing people remember you for.
22. Be spontaneous. There’s so much more life out there for you to live than that fits into your predictable day-to-day schedule.
That’s all for now,